Married and Singles need this!
Married and Singles need this!
In 1950, the median ages for first marriages were 22.8 years old for men and 20.3 years old for women. As late as 1970, the median ages were 23.2 for men and 20.8 for women. And then those ages started rising, and they’re still going up. The figures as of 2013: 29 and 27, respectively.
What’s going on here? What does it mean? Those questions are raised in an important new study by the Census Bureau.
The study, entitled “The Changing Economics and Demographics of Young Adulthood: 1975–2016,” opens with a sobering conclusion: “What was once ubiquitous [for younger Americans’] during their 20s is now not commonplace until their 30s. Some demographers believe the delays represent a new period of the life course between childhood and adulthood, a period of ‘emerging adulthood.’”
The “delays” referred to by the study are not only those involving marriage and child-rearing, but also other hallmarks associated with what we used to call “growing up.”
As the report says, “In prior generations, young adults were expected to have finished school, found a job, and set up their own household during their 20s—most often with their spouse and with a child soon to follow.”
Now we’ve previously talked here on BreakPoint about declining labor force participation, so let’s take a closer look at the “setting up their own household” part. Forty years ago, more than half—57 percent—of Americans between the ages of 18 and 34 lived with their spouse; only 26 percent lived with their parents.
Not anymore. Today, only 27 percent of that group live with their spouse; 31 percent live with their parents. Even if you add in the percentages of those living with unmarried partners or living alone, the number of 18-to-34-year-olds living independently is ten percentage points lower than the percentage of those living with their spouses just 40 years ago.
What’s more, they don’t seem to be in any sort of hurry to establish their households, much less have children. While more than 95 percent of those surveyed rated completing your education and getting a job as “extremely” or “somewhat” important, less than half said the same thing about getting married and having a child, and three quarters of these only rated marriage and child-rearing as “somewhat important.”
I repeat, this is consequential.
One obvious consequence is demographic. Delaying marriage means fewer children, which in turn means fewer workers to support an aging American population. It’s not working out well for Japan and China, and it’s not going to work out well for us, either.
Another consequence: fewer and smaller extended families. Fewer children will have cousins, and if trends continue, their children will have fewer aunts and uncles. The support and social capital generated by extended family networks will become a thing of the past. It’s fair to say that more and more of our elderly will become, by necessity, wards of the state.
Now are all called to marriage? Scripture and Christian history tell us clearly not. In fact, my colleague Gina Dalfonzo is releasing a book in June called “One by One,” which reminds us how vital singles are to the life of the Church. We have info about that at BreakPoint.org.
But for those not called to singleness, the command “be fruitful and multiply” is still in effect. It’s a command we ignore not only at our peril, but our future’s, as well.
3 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
18 And unto the angel of the church in Thyatira write; These things saith the Son of God, who hath his eyes like unto a flame of fire, and his feet are like fine brass;19 I know thy works, and charity, and service, and faith, and thy patience, and thy works; and the last to be more than the first.20 Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.21 And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not.22 Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.
37 But as the days of Noah were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be.38 For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark,
Vice President Mike Pence has been under criticism recently for saying that he does not attend events with other women unless his wife is present.
The controversy began with an article published in The Washington Post about Pence’s relationship with his wife, Karen.
Karen Pence has been characterized as her husband’s confidante, prayer warrior, and supporter.
Pence reportedly had a special phone installed in his office in the White House which is a direct line for his wife to reach him.
Pence has said that he does not attend events where he would be alone with other women if his wife is not present, especially if there is alcohol involved.
“In 2002, Mike Pence told the Hill that he never eats alone with a woman other than his wife and that he won’t attend events featuring alcohol without her by his side, either,” the Post reported.
Although this may seem like a simple act of respect for a spouse and a protection of his marriage, Pence’s adherence to the so-called Billy Graham Rule, has brought on the heat, especially from liberals.
Philip Sherburne, editor of Pitchfork, even went so far as to compare Pence’s guidelines for his marriage to Sharia law: “So the GOP is up in arms over Sharia law, yet Mike Pence won’t have a business meal with a woman that’s not his wife,” tweeted Sherburne. “Sure, that checks out.”
Others condemned Pence’s decision not to be alone with other women from a biblical perspective. “Jesus warns against this–if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. Problem is, sin is never in the hand. It’s in the heart,” tweeted Laura Turner.
Conservative writer and commentator Maggie Gallagher said she was “fighting off liberals on my Twitter account” regarding this issue. “They have this theory that it somehow disadvantages his women employees. I’m guessing in reality the women who work for him are grateful to have a boss who doesn’t hit on them. It’s not that hard to leave a door open or invite a colleague in,” she wrote.
Photo courtesy: Reuters/David Becker
Have you ever experienced a life changing situation? A Major set-back? A time where you thought you were making progress and everything appeared as if it was going in the right direction, only to find yourself in a major circumstance that will temporarily set you back? In this message, Pastor Long arms believers with tools to overcoming all major set-backs.
An unanticipated or sudden check in progress; a change from better to worse.
I. Have you ever had a major setback? (Divorce, foreclosure,terminal disease, etc.)
II. How do we overcome a MAJOR, set-back?
1. Hear the Word of God on the Subject! ( Shut up and listen)
2. Exercise great mental strength – Mk5: 25-26: after 12 years
she still knew she could win! ( Prov 23:7; Daniel 7:25; I Sam
3. Keep saying Gods will! (Mk 5:28; Mk. 11:23-24)
4.You must make adjustments! / Create your own point of
Contact! (Mk 5:27)
5. Follow through with vigorous, consistent, unceasing faith
actions until you win (Mk 5:29, 34; Jm 2:17)
In an extensive working paper entitled “The Incidental Fertility Effects of School Condom Distribution Programs,” University of Notre Dame researchers Kasey Buckle and Daniel Hungerman chart the effectiveness of distributing condoms to young students in order to curb teen pregnancy and reduce rates of sexually transmitted diseases. Their results reveal that both teen pregnancy and STD rates increased with the presence of such condom distribution efforts.
As noted in a June 15 Vox article about the study, the push to make condoms more accessible in school districts was largely in response to the alarming AIDS epidemic in the early 1990s. Such a push appears to have backfired.
The Notre Dame researchers focused on school condom distribution programs, some of which required counseling of some kind and other programs that did not. For those programs that required no counseling, they found a 10% rise in teen births and a notable increase in gonorrhea in women, an additional 2.43 cases per 1,000 women.
Writing at National Review, scholar Dr. Michael New hailed the study as an addition to the “impressive body of research which shows that efforts to encourage contraceptive use either through mandates, subsidies, or distribution are ineffective at best or counterproductive at worst.”
Other scholars suggest a much more nefarious agenda is operating here.
The government’s deliberate strategy is to “get the kids hooked on sex before they are old enough to have mature judgment,” said Morse. They intentionally “convince them that self-command is impossible, and possibly unhealthy” and young people thereby “become participants in and supporters of the Sexual Revolution.”
With condoms readily available, Vox’s Sarah Kliff acknowledged in her piece that indeed “it’s possible that teens did engage in riskier behavior” but was quick to point out the effectiveness of birth control pills and wrote that the research paper is unable to answer why pregnancy rates rose in places where condoms were given out.
But as it also turns out, even as STDs rates continue to rise teenagers are forgoing contraception. And communities now tend to prefer sex education models that do not promote contraception.
An article in last month’s Journal of Adolescent Health analyzed data from the Center for Disease Control’s National Survey of Family Growth. The data showed that fewer communities are comfortable with the type of federally funded sex-ed programs, such as the Obama administration’s Teen Pregnancy Prevention (TPP) program, that normalize teen sex, demonstrate use of contraception, and make usage of contraceptives attractive.
The CDC data also revealed that despite such efforts even sexually active teens are not using contraception.
According to the CDC’s National Youth Risk Behavior Survey, since Obama’s TPP program began, sexually active teens, especially 12th graders, are demonstrably less interested in using contraceptives.
Additional findings in the CDC’s survey portend good news for what is known as Sexual Risk Avoidance (SRA) education, a model that promotes abstinence. To the surprise of some, approximately 60% of teenagers are waiting for sex, the highest percentage to date.
In a June 20 press release from ASCEND, a DC-based abstinence advocacy group, founder and CEO Valerie Huber said, “The research continues to reveal that the TPP program, while well intentioned, is not effective, and appears to actually increase risk for vulnerable teens.”
“Taxpayer dollars would be better spent on SRA programs, which give youth the skills and information to avoid all sexual risk. The new data in the CDC’s YRBS report discloses that the SRA approach resonates with an increasing number of teens, and it is uniquely able to help sexually active youth return to a place of health,” Huber said.
Nearly six years ago, Bishop Eddie Long was accused of engaging in sexual misconduct, ranging from sensual massages to oral copulation, by four young men who were members of his Atlanta-area megachurch.
In 2011, Long reached a settlement with several men who claimed the pastor took them on trips, and gave them gifts including jewelry, electronics, cars, and clothes to convince them to have sex with him.
Despite denying the claims, Long agreed to pay his accused an undisclosed amount while he tried to rebuild his image and his ministry.
While he has stayed mostly mum about the accusations in years past, Long appeared on Steve Harvey’s talk show on Wednesday to tell the “Untold Story”–which, coincidentally, also happens to be the title of his new book (that he really, really wants you to buy).
During his appearance, Harvey got right to the point, asking the question everyone wanted to know: did Long have sex with the young men?
While he’s claimed innocence in the past, this time around, Long gave a different answer.
“I’m bound by court that I can’t answer,” he told Harvey, who asked the preacher to give a simple yes or no response. “I can’t make any statements about that.”
Long’s comment seemed odd, particularly because he was on the show to discuss “the untold truth” about the allegations he now claimed he was unable to comment on.
Full Interview can be seen below:
“It hasn’t been easy for Caitlyn, it’s been very hard,” Ian Halperin recalls one source telling him Caitlyn Jenner, who announced her transition from man to woman last year, has considered de-transitioning, the author of a new book about the Kardashian family told TheWrap on Wednesday.
Ian Halperin, the author of “Kardashian Dynasty: The Controversial Rise of America’s Royal Family,” said that, while researching his book, multiple sources told him that the former Olympian had been miserable for months and has considered transitioning back to a man.
“One source confirmed to me Caitlyn has made whispers of ‘sex change regret,’ hinting she might go back to being Bruce Jenner,” Halperin said.
Halperin said that one long-time friend told him that, while Jenner was “thrilled” to champion transgender issues, the reality TV personality could de-transition “in the next couple years.”
Jenner’s representatives have not yet responded to TheWrap’s request for comment. However, a representative for Jenner denied Halperin’s claims, telling New York Daily News, “Not worth commenting on such an idiotic report … Of course it’s not true.”
“It hasn’t been easy for Caitlyn, it’s been very hard,” the friend said, according to Halperin. “She’s thrilled she has raised awareness about how transgender people have long been discriminated against but I think there’s a chance she’ll de-transition in the next couple years. I don’t think it would surprise anybody in her inner circle. It has been much harder than she anticipated. My heart goes out to her and I know her true friends will be there to support her on whatever path she chooses.”
According to Halperin, multiple sources close to the Kardashian family told him that Jenner might revert back because she retains her interest in females.
“She’s still into women and wants to meet the right one,” Halperin recalled one friend saying.
Based on his research, Halperin believes that Jenner will de-transition in the next couple of years, telling the public how difficult the transition was, but noting that she was happy to help raise awareness about transgender right.
Jenner has hinted at trepidation over the transition in the past. A lengthy Vanity Fair story recalls a panic attack that she experienced after undergoing facial-feminization surgery, during which she wondered, “What did I just do? What did I just do to myself?”
In his book, the #1 New York Times best-selling author and award-winning journalist reveals that Jenner’s ex-wife, Kris Jenner, was very aware of her husband’s desire to transition, and forced him into religious conversion therapy, and attempted to get him to attend church in an effort to save their marriage.